Don't Let The "Self Love" Trend Have You Alone Because You Refuse To Learn Conflict Resolution.

Updated: Mar 23, 2019

I stumbled across the most impressive meme today! Normally, memes evoke laughter and such in me, but this one touched my soul and baby, it burned.

For anyone who doesn't know I am a self love and self esteem coach. I pride myself in my brand that encourages self care and personal accountability. I want people to learn to allow themselves to outgrow the things that weigh their spirit down while also growing to be the best version of themselves.

As the one who is a strong advocate for self love I found it incredibly important to speak on how moved I became by this post that made its way to me.

It said:

Don't let this tainted "self love" trend have you 50 and alone because you walked away from everything that "didn't serve you" instead of learning conflict resolution.

Social media is FLOODED by memes and posts disguised as useful advice and tips. Instead of taking social media for the entertainment that it is, people are beginning to receive these post as facts and whoa the problems are starting to overcome me with stress.

While I'd like to point out that it is important to separate yourself from things that TRULY don't serve you, I think there needs to be some clarification on what that means and looks like. It seems to me a lot of people are using this "self care journey" as an excuse to refuse to make amends, to say I'm sorry and to simply do and be better. It allows them to relinquish all the blame onto others while sitting on their high horse.

I don't know who needs to hear this, but honey YOU are probably the problem.

Every single friend who disagrees with your movements is not a hater.

Every friend who tells you about yourself isn't conspiring for your downfall and every person who requires you to step to the plate and be better isn't a drama starting bitch.

Just because someone is holding you accountable and requiring you to do better as a friend and a person doesn't make them toxic. Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes, including those hiding behind sage and self care memes.

If you are wondering if you may be toxic, here are some qualities of toxic people.

1. They take more than they give in relationships/friendships.